Anal penetration of the man by a woman wearing a dildo (pegging)
Pegging is anal penetration of a woman by a woman
wearing a strap-on dildo. The origin of the term was a 2001 contest in Dan Savage's
Sex advice column, which readers to name the process of a heterosexual woman
penetrating her boyfriend with a dildo.
Enjoyment
The act is (or may be) enjoyable for both man and woman: men get pleasure from stimulation
of the anus, rectum, and prostate so long as enough lubricant is applied, and women get stimulation
from the base of the dildo against their clitoris or from vaginal penetration if
the dildo is double ended. Or a woman can use a vibrator to get pleasure as she
fucks her man up his anus.
There is also satisfaction to be had from the reversal of sex roles,
particularly the dominance and submission play that can occur during this form
of sexual expression. Since there is a stigma attached to anal sex (and male homosexuality),
it may be that people get enjoyment from gender-reversal
aspects of anal penetration with a dildo. And many women enjoy the sense of
owning a "penis," while men may being receptive to penetration.
Popularity of anal penetration
Anal penetration with a dildo has featured in mainstream and pornographic movies;
for example, in the 1970 film Myra Breckinridge, although the
first explicit scene occurred in The
Opening of Misty Beethoven (1976). The documentary Bend Over Boyfriend, produced by Carol
Queen, also features it.
Female-to-male strap-ons have a high market value in the porn industry, so a
number of studios focus on this subject; the notable ones include Strap It On (black women on white
men), a series called Babes Balling Boys, and Strap-on Chicks. There are
hundreds of films including this practice, and well-known female porn stars
feature strap-on pegging with male partners, among them
Taylor Wane and Monique Covét, who explained: "If women have to take it
from behind, then why shouldn't men?"
Strap anal sex on FAQ
Isn't this just weird? And who does this stuff anyway?
It’s becoming more common. It’s not unusual for
men to fantasize that a woman is anally penetrating them: some act out their desires.
Anal pleasure can be considerable for both sexes, and many men like
their female partners to take control in bed.
If a man likes being
fucked in the ass, isn't he gay?
No! Being gay is about being attracted to men, not having a predilection for
ass-fucking! If a woman does it to a man, it's heterosexual sex. But if he
fantasizes about a guy fucking him, as his girlfriend shags him, he's
probably bisexual.
What does it mean when a man enjoys being dominated by a woman?
It means some couples reverse roles as a way of getting more sexual pleasure.
What’s the best sized dildo for a woman to use on a man?
Start with a small one! To be comfortable, try something 6 inches or less, and
move on from there. You need something that fits a harness, so it will have to
have a base plate, a sturdy harness, one that has adjustable straps, made of
plastic or some other material capable of withstanding the action!
What’s the best anal sex technique and sexual position for a woman to fuck a man?
The best position for anal sex is to have the receiving partner lie down on his back, legs pulled up,
with his female partner fucking him in a missionary-style man on top position.
However, many couples like sex with the man bent over or leaning forward
doggy-style - this adds to his submission.
Isn’t this really kinky?
It's true many heterosexual couples don’t use a strap-on, but if a man enjoys
being fucked in
the ass by his partner, so what?
Where is the prostate gland and how do you stimulate it?
The prostate gland is situated between the outer wall of the rectum and the
point where the penis emerges from the body: it's the size of a walnut and is
very sexually sensitive, so that under stimulation it will intensify a man’s
orgasm and/or the power and quantity of his semen ejaculation. You can stimulate the
prostate with a finger or sex toy inserted through the anus, or you can use a
dildo and a suitable butt plug, pushing them about 3
inches into the man’s rectum. Changing the angle of penetration changes
the amount of sensation the man gets from prostate stimulation. Press against the wall
of the rectum.
What’s the best artificial lube to use with a strap-on for anal sex?
Water-based lubes are best since they suit all sex toy materials (silicone lubes
affect sex toys made of silicone, while oil based lubes affect rubber); good
anal lubes are formulated just for anal penetration, and they are heavier, don't
lose their slipperiness, and withstand heavy friction. If the man (or indeed the
woman in normal anal sex) is concerned about suffering pain
or discomfort, the EROS Explorer anal muscle relaxant spray will protect
and relax the area. It allows easy
penetration and produces a relaxed opportunity for enjoyable anal sex. There is
no loss of sensation, the sensitivity of the anal sphincter is reduced and if
your partner is relaxed there will be no discomfort.
Where’s the best place to get a strap-on?
Toys in
www.babeland.com or
www.lovehoney.co.uk supply high
quality strap-on dildos and all kinds of sex harnesses.
How is a single man to find a partner willing to service him in this way?
Paying for sex with a professional dominatrix is a possibility. But many women
are more willing to explore the ins and outs of anal penetration than you might
think. Indeed, many women will be thrilled to take the chance to reverse roles
during sex.
Choosing the Strap-On For You
You need the right equipment for good anal sex - especially when the man is the
one who wants to experiment. As mentioned, choose a strong strap-on dildo and
add a good quality harness: inexpensive
flesh-colored dildos made of rubber with poor quality thin elastic will not
last; and it matters what you look like, for an ugly and tastelessly designed strap-on
may make you feel cheap. Harnesses come in corset style and this is both sexy and serviceable;
for a more dominant look, choose something that gives you an air of dominance -
studded leather, for example.
Don’t get hung up on size!
You can't expect to stuff a large dildo up a beginner's asshole: that may well
be the end of the experiment. To start with, choose something small and short -
you can always get a bigger one later. As a guide, 5 to 6 inches in
length and between 1 and 1.5 inches across is probably about right to start
with. use plenty of lube, and choose something firm but flexible; silicone, jelly,
and something called Cyberskin are very comfortable. A smooth dildo is best to
start with since the anal canal is so sensitive.
And, incidentally, the dildo should
be curved for his pleasure: an upward curve will stimulate the prostate and this
is likely to give him greater pleasure and more powerful ejaculations.
Happily for you both, if it's designed for female G-spot stimulation it can
usually be used to stimulate a man's prostate.
Women can become aroused when they use a strap-on. But you can also get physical
pleasure by using a vibrator in the harness and one that is designed for
stimulating the clitoris or even the vagina as you fuck your man. There are also
dual strap-ons, strap-ons designed to penetrate the vagina and anus
simultaneously, and so on.....
Wearing Your Strap-On In All Anal sex Positions
You have to get the angle of penetration right or it won't work too well, and
the dildo needs to be secured in the
right position: the straps should be adjusted so that the dildo hangs at the
right angle for all sex positions, though you may need to adjust them as you
shift.
Here, the dildo is too low; it
should not point downwards, but horizontally out in front or even slightly
upwards. If it hangs low, it will be difficult to control.
Here, the straps may cut into your
genitals, and the dildo will enter the man at the wrong angle: it needs to be
placed over your pubic bone.
Here it is in the correct position.
The pubic bone is a firm base for thrusting and helps angle the dildo correctly.
WHAT TO DO NEXT
Just how do you fuck your boyfriend?
Well, stay calm! Be confident, and assertive. Think of how you'd like a man to
be if you were making love for the first time. By asking you to fuck him up the
ass, the man is making himself very vulnerable to the woman, and since you are
both (presumably) trying to have fun, relax. The power play may be a turn on for
you, and you may find you can explore your whole sexual power. This is the kind
of thing that breaks sexual boundaries.
Start with him bent over as though you were having rear entry sex in the normal
way - i.e. as if he was fucking you from behind, but with the positions
reversed. Make sure he is the right height. Find the position that allows for
comfortable entry and apply loads of lube to both dildo and his ass-hole.
Massage it in with a finger so he relaxes - this is erotic in itself, and if
you're into the power play, make him apply the lube to his own ass and to the
dildo.
Start gently pushing the tip of the dildo into his anus. Hold the shaft as you
do so, and tell him to relax and open
up his sphincter muscles until the head of the dildo disappears. when it has
gone in a short way, gently let him feel it continue pressing its way in.
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Extract
from "The Onion"
How do I love my lady's
anus? Let me count the ways.......
Have you seen her? Have
you seen my beautiful lady and her anus? Unless you are an ex-boyfriend,
her proctologist, or an art student in that class she modeled for, you
probably have not have glimpsed the fairest orifice on God's green
Earth. For this, you have my deepest sympathies.
My lady does not like me
to go on and on about her anus, but how can I resist? When I look into
that one brown eye, it's like gazing into a deep, untouched lake.
Sometimes, it's as if I'm gazing through a taut, puckered window into
her very soul, placing myself in danger of being hypnotized by the
swirls of her rectum. Her anus is like a vessel I can't seem to fill
with enough love, no matter how hard I try. I am not what one would call
a holy man, but when I am gently kissing my lady's fragrant anus, I am
convinced that there must be a higher power out there who made this
sacred aperture.
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It’s the (Pelvic) Thrust
Position your hands on his hips and start to push forward
slowly until the dildo
is right in his butt. Then relax, take a breath and let his asshole and muscles
around his anus relax. Pull a little way out carefully, slowly, and then push back in.
Imitate thrusts: Pull out, push in.
You wan to carry on with this, gradually increasing your thrusting speed and
putting a bit more force in as you go. Keep thrusting with a steady
rhythm. The key thing here is that you're stimulating his prostate gland. This
feels good, and you'll find his cock starts dripping pre-cum - he may
possibly ejaculate. Reach around to play with his cock and balls while you enjoy
the sense of fucking him from behind. Pay attention to how he reacts: how he
moves and the sounds
he makes. Judge what to do by the intensity of his moans, what he says, his breathing, and
how he moves. if you fear hurting him, but
he’s begging you to pound away, trust him. Let yourself go, and remember that communication is important: he
must let you know what he wants, especially if he feel any discomfort.
Get Creative!
Once you know what you're doing, experiment with different
anal sex positions. Lay him on his back with his legs in the air - you know how
it goes, having had sex on your back so many times! You may want to put his legs over your
shoulders, or a pillow under his butt to lift it. Think what he does to you in this
position - and then kiss him, play with his nipples or stroke his cock. Or do
the reverse woman on top - where he rides your "dick" on top of you!
When the power play really gets going, anal fucking is good for being dominated,
so you could try spanking him, or prepare him for anal penetration using a butt plug, or
put a cock ring on him to
keep him erect and delay his ejaculation. Use all your imagination and think
what you have fantasized about doing to men in this position...if you never
have, then make it up!
Strap-On Sex Positions
The best sex positions for strap-on
sex with a man.
Doggy Style
Get your man face down on a suitable
surface - bed,
couch, floor, with his head down and his bottom up in the air, supported by
pillows under his body if necessary. This is good to start with - he is
comfortable and you can see what is happening!
Classic Bend Over Boyfriend
Another position in which the man is
submissive is shown above - he stands, bent over at the waist, supporting his
weight with his hands on his knees or on a chair or table. His cock and balls
are easily accessible.
Ride 'Em Cowboy
This position can work well if he
wants to maintain control of the speed and depth of penetration.
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Extract
from Village Voice: Bend Over, Boys! by Tristan Taormino
Attention all straight
men! This is a call to arms. I know the secret to a better sex life. I'm
willing to share it with you. There is something you need to learn how
to do. Something that can transform your life. You must try it at least
once; I am sure you won't be disappointed. You've got something to pick
up from your gay brothers. And it's not just those fashion and
decorating tips you marvel about on Will and Grace. Something
your wives and girlfriends can be taught by their lesbian sisters. No,
it's not a crash course in expert muff diving. There is a craze sweeping
the nation, and you oughta know about it. It's ass fucking—with you on
the receiving end.
Every single day that I
worked at the woman-owned sex-toy store Toys in Babeland, at least one
heterosexual couple bought a dildo and harness for her to fuck him.
Well, for these adventurous women and their partners, I recommended what
I called "My first strap-on"—for the ride of his (and her)
life. It's a slim silicone dildo named Mistress, which I consider to be
the best for virgin voyagers, and a simple functional harness. And, of
course, I recommended lots and lots of lube. |
Other recommended websites on human
sexuality:
How to deal with delayed
ejaculation - the inability to ejaculate during sex
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